Because They Will Make Their Own Homes Soon (Day 324)

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As we head into the second half of the final year of high school for my youngest child, I find myself constantly wondering about how my life will change once my children no longer live at home, first temporarily and then, in not so long, permanently.

This poem came across my desk recently and I’ve keep rereading it because I feel it so deeply in my soul. Even though they don’t read my blog, this poem is for my daughters, if they ever wish to look into what it is we really feel as their parents.

To My Son’s Girlfriend  by Michael Milburn

I’m tempted to ask
what you see in him.
Although you probably
see the good that I see
I wonder if you realize
how much he is my handiwork,
or which of the qualities
you daydream about in class
are the ones that I take pride in,
his cordiality, for example,
or love of silliness.

It’s uncomfortable for me
to think of anyone else
loving him the way I do,
possessing him in a way
that only his mother and I
have ever possessed him,
and I can’t deny being jealous,
not so much reluctant
to share or relinquish him
as resolved to remind you
that he’s been around
longer than your love,
under construction if you will,
and that each cute trait
or whatever occurs to you
when you hear his name
I feel proprietary about,
like a woodworker
who makes a table
intending to sell it
but prays that no buyer
will recognize its worth.


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