I Didn’t Mean To Steal From That TED Talk (Day 80)

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This is a bit embarrassing for me.

I was looking for a TED talk that would complement some of the things I’ve been thinking about this week, about accepting myself for who I am, about not striving for perfection but for connection, about being kind to myself so I can truly be kind to others. A talk that would enhance the material I put forth in a blog post from two days ago.

Deliberately, I stayed away from the first Brene Brown talk. Her TED talk is loved by viewers and an obvious choice for anyone wanting to understand what makes TED great. It’s inspirational; it’s smart; it’s presented by someone with innate charm, whom most people would find difficult not to like. I wanted a talk that wasn’t so well-loved, a talk that you wouldn’t hear about from somebody else.

I also didn’t want the Brene Brown talk because I wanted to watch something new to me, something I haven’t seen before. And I watched her talk three or so years ago. Probably three times. It’s that good.

So I searched for other talks on the subject of self-worth and knowing thyself, etc. I found several potential options and began to watch. After watching four of them, I felt deflated. They all were interesting but none of them spoke to me the way the Brown talk did.

What kind of blogger would I be if I didn’t choose the most fitting option simply because it is popular?

Not the kind of blogger I aspire to be.

The re-watch of Brene Brown’s talk did not disappoint. She spoke exactly to what I had in mind. As a matter of fact, early in her talk, she said almost the exact same words I used in my blog post from two days ago (link here) about people always judging themselves against some impossible standard and feeling like they are not smart enough, talented enough, good enough.

While much of what Brown said in her talk resonated with me a few years back, her words and ideas were drawn from the research she did, over many years. It became clear to me immediately that I seemed to have unknowingly stored an important piece of her analysis in a secret compartment in my brain, which opened willingly for me when I wrote the blog post about being enough.

Brene Brown’s first TED talk (I’m planning on watching the second one this week but won’t be reporting on it now) takes the subject much deeper, backs it up with data, and reveals her personal story of how her own research set her off balance and she needed a significant amount of time to figure out some things about her life before she felt she could analyze and share her results.

Please watch this talk. It’s 20 minutes long. It will shift your thinking. Unless you are one of the few out there who already allows him or herself to be vulnerable more often than not.

The link to Brene Brown’s TED talk called, The Power of Vulnerability, is here.


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2 thoughts on “I Didn’t Mean To Steal From That TED Talk (Day 80)

  1. Sara, thank you for pointing me to Brene’s TED talk — I watched it while decompressing before jumping into traffic after a long work-day. The scary thing for me was that I had not spent time — almost ever — thinking about my vulnerabilities. But now that I am (thank you!) — I find this is giving me strength! My vulnerabilities are probably common theme for women like me with big careers and demanding jobs — will they discover that I really have no idea what I’m doing? Maybe I am faking it? Maybe I really did fail that calculus exam of my dreams and am not worthy! Anyway – in a weird way it’s giving me power, if that makes any sense…. thanks again for such a thought-provoking piece.

    1. So glad Brown’s talk empowered you. We need to harness our power as much as we are able, don’t you think?

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