20 Years Later, Still In Disbelief

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Emily Powers Foster (August 15, 1967 – October 6, 1994)


Twenty years ago today, my sister-in-law Emily died. She was 27.

I wanted to dedicate today’s blog post to her, to write her a letter, to let her know how much she meant to me, how much I miss her, and how much my children (her nieces)–who only know her through stories and photos–would have adored her.

But I can’t seem to do it. The emotion is still so raw, the shock of her being gone still so real. Even now, writing about how I can’t write about her, I am crying uncontrollably. I can barely see my words through the blur.

So, instead, I am going to offer up a link from a blog post I wrote in 2012, titled “Thinking of Emily”, which tells a little bit about what happened in the Fall of 1994. The story of what happened to Emily begins in paragraph four of the post.

Please read it.

There is comfort in knowing that for a moment, anybody who reads the story will be with us, her family and friends, thinking of Emily, envisioning her, on this terrible, horrible anniversary day.


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8 thoughts on “20 Years Later, Still In Disbelief

  1. I heard of this just after it happened but had few details and, of course, would not ask. Memories of such tragedies stay with us and sometimes recur when least expected, but anniversaries can be especially trying. I hope today goes as easily aa possible for you, Sam and his family. I will be thinking of you.

  2. Sara,
    Your moving tribute to Emily is a remarkable work that holds meaning to those of us who knew and loved her and for those who will know how her only through your heart-felt story. Su-Su and I, as Emily’s aunt and uncle, and her first cousins Allison and Elizabeth, are bound by the gripping story of her final days, the resilience of her family during those frightful days,and the profound sense of loss that each of feel to this day. As Emily’s mother, and my sister Lila, is at this moment traveling to Virginia to be with her brothers and sisters-in-law, your tribute to Emily strengthens our resolve to cherish those brief and fleeting opportunities to renew and embrace our family ties. Howard

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