Who? Shares her what?
It started with a Facebook post. Actually, for me it started with the post. It really began with a mother struggling to find an effective, stress-free way to confront some critical issues with her teenage daughters. She figured they might not hear what she had to say if she lectured them. Pretty good figuring, I say. So she wrote them a list, called it “Your Mama’s Nuggets: Read it. Live it. Own it.
Her nuggets resonated with me. As you know by now, because I talk about them all the time, I have teenage daughters. It’s through one of those daughters that I came to know moJo Mama, who usually goes by the name Ann Moran Brainard. But I kind of like my nickname. I doubt I’m the first to call her that.
My friend, you see, is a purveyor of a New Orleans-style cold coffee elixir called moJo. According to my other friend (Google), the word Mojo came to America via African slaves and is a type of magic charm that contains botanical, zoological, and or mineral curios. At football games in West Texas (Google says), fans chant to the opposing team “you ain’t got no mojo,” meaning you don’t have “the right stuff.”
Well, our moJo Mama has the right stuff. She recently launched her own business selling this amazing stuff (and it is amazing! I first tasted it at a local fair). Currently, she sells it through a store called Grassy Roots in Wenham, Massachusetts; this summer she’ll be taking it to farmer’s markets; and in the not-too-distant future, she plans to bottle it for a wider distribution. So be on the lookout.
But back to those nuggets. Meant for the teenage girls but it’s pretty good advice for those of us way past our teen years.
1. Trust Your Gut. If something doesn’t feel right, it isn’t. If it’s telling you not to do something, don’t.
2. Be the voice of reason. The leader, not the follower.
3. Be in control. Bad things happen when you’re not thinking clearly. (drugs, drinking, boys)
4. YOUR choices will determine your future. Choose carefully. (drugs, drinking, boys)
5. Be extremely proud of who you are/how much you’ve accomplished. Keep up that momentum.
6. Don’t be that girl (or let your friends be that girl) whom boys use purely for their own pleasure and purposes. It’s degrading and will wreak havoc on your self-esteem. (substance abuse, eating disorders, depression)
7. If you’re not being treated with love and respect, walk away. It’s YOU and only you who tells people what you’re worth by what you accept. Learn to value yourself. If you don’t, no one else will.
8. No means NO. Say it with conviction. Be heard. (date rape)
9. Aim high, venture out into the world, carpe diem! The more people you meet, the more places you visit, the richer your life will be. YOU are in charge of your destiny. Make the most of all that life has to offer. BE the BALL.
10. Choose to view every challenge as an opportunity to grow and to learn.
11. “Be the change you wish to see in the world” (Gandhi). Helping others – truly connecting – breeds inner peace, fulfillment and happiness. Find your spark (how you’d like to make a difference) and IGNITE IT!
12. Learn from your mistakes. We all make them. It’s what we do after we’ve made them that counts.
13. Only post/text messages and photos that you’re comfortable sharing with the world, forever. Posts and texts will remain out in cyberspace (and available to prospective colleges/employers) forever and ever . . .
14. You are a young adult not an adult. Doing adult things doesn’t make you an adult. Be patient, there’s plenty of time for the adult stuff. Staying young, doing teenage things is a gift that will end in time . . . value each day of it.
15. Attitude is everything! CHOOSE to focus on the good things within a bad situation. It’s that simple. You can ALWAYS find something positive to help you through any rough patch.
16. We will always be here for you, sweetheart. Don’t ever hesitate to reach out for our help. No matter what time of day (or night), we are here for you! No problem or situation is too big for us to confront AND to overcome! Always remember, you are our shining light and our world. We are SO INCREDIBLY PROUD of who you’ve become.
I told you moJo Mama has the right stuff.
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